...and then all fell apart. You have suffered a significant loss in your life and you finally seem to be moving out of the shock. People closest to you, who are there to support you and help you are asking you to move on, to take the next step, to see things from another perspective and to just start living again..... and you get sooooo angry at them. Your question is: 'Where is the real support and understanding? |
Signs of their compassion?','What is going on with them? Don't they see what I am going through?' You'd like them to understand, and just feel with you. You have just lost someone significant in your life, perhaps the dearest one, and you are absolutely right. Nobody can understand your pain the way you do, and nobody else can know what is the best way for processing your grief. That is part of your uniqueness. And just like anybody else, you want to feel accepted and understood just the way you are at this very moment.
Your anger may have different facets. You can get angry at the loved one who has died prior to your expectations, or at the doctors who couldn't have done more to save your loved one... You may get angry at yourself, blaming yourself for not being there, or not behaving in a better way prior to their death. You may simply be angry at those around you who want to help you out. Your anger is an indicator of how much you have loved the one who died. For which ever kind of anger you feel, you do not owe an apology to anybody. It is your grief and it is your way of expressing the pain within. You have got many reasons to be as you are at this moment. Your life has changed drastically and you will need time to adapt to the new circumstances. So what is there to be done?
Your anger may have different facets. You can get angry at the loved one who has died prior to your expectations, or at the doctors who couldn't have done more to save your loved one... You may get angry at yourself, blaming yourself for not being there, or not behaving in a better way prior to their death. You may simply be angry at those around you who want to help you out. Your anger is an indicator of how much you have loved the one who died. For which ever kind of anger you feel, you do not owe an apology to anybody. It is your grief and it is your way of expressing the pain within. You have got many reasons to be as you are at this moment. Your life has changed drastically and you will need time to adapt to the new circumstances. So what is there to be done?