When you are going through a significant change in life or a major loss - not necessarily the death of a loved one, it could be anything important, such as giving up on the pursuit of your dreams, or a terminal illness, etc., you may become swamped with various emotions. The intensity of those might scare you, and you find yourself in attempts of negotiation with a higher power, or simply with someone who you hope would have some control over the situation. Do you currently concentrate all your energy in finding the possibility of an unusual change?
Your wish to go back in time and reverse the situation is a completely normal and useful thing to contemplate on. Why do I say this? Because it may simply be a sign that your current emotional load is too heavy for you to be able to accept the facts of the present moment. Believing it possible that your loved one will somehow wake up, or come back if you behave in a certain way, (pray more, quit drinking, or do things which you normally wouldn't) is a sign of your need to stay focused on the past.
Anita is a Counselor, Coach and the Author of the forthcoming book on personal empowerment 'Independent Bjorn'.